By which I mean: if you don't agree that abortion should be legal and available at all, ever, under any circumstances.
And yet you don't wish murder upon doctors who provide abortions. You find the likes of Randall Terry repugnant. You are deeply horrified by the murder of Dr. George Tiller. You refuse to use the murder as a cheap pedestal from which to push your own agenda.
Then, people? You need to step the fuck up. Because the evil people have taken over, and they are speaking their malignant speech and rejoicing in murder in your name. You need to shun them and force them out and muzzle the hate-spewers of the media like Limbaugh and O'Reilly.
Say what you want about how you're not like them, and you don't agree with them, but until you contain them and stamp out that part of the movement, until all of you no longer fall under the same umbrella term "pro-lifer," any protestations are meaningless, the distinction difficult to make. If these men don't speak for you, then don't let them.
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On the other hand: If the thought of women using abortion as a consequence-evader for careless sexual behavior disgusts you, if abortion is a choice you would never make for yourself no matter what.
But you think there should be some exceptions made: for rape. For incest. For fetuses who have defects incompatible with life. When the life of the mother is at stake.
Then: you are going to have to work with pro-choice groups. Why? Because abortion is abortion -- and if you want that choice (such as it is) to be available when your daughter is pregnant after being raped, then you will have to make sure there is legal provision for doctors to perform abortions. You will have to ensure that medical students learn how to do the procedure. You will have to make doctors' offices safe places for the people who work there. When you have a dying fetus in your uterus and are fast on your way to dead yourself, you will depend on the justice system to keep the only doctor who can help you from being shot to death as he seats fellow congregants in church.
If you believe that there is any circumstance under which abortion should be permissible, then you bear the responsibility for making it so. Use your vote. Use your money. Use your typing fingers and your voice in the Fellowship Hall and with your neighbors.
Our national polarization regarding abortion is at the forefront once again, a compound fracture with bone shards breaking the skin. Life is full of gray areas, complexity, shades of meaning, but there's not a lot of middle ground here. Barring a life of domestic terrorism, there are two choices. Either you work to make this a country where doctors can perform abortion without fear of constant harassment and death, no matter what circumstances you consider acceptable for seeking abortion -- or you work through legal, civil means to block all access to abortion, and accept that women are going to die as a result.
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A note on comments: comments, agreeing or disagreeing, are welcome. However, anything that veers into hatred, threatening, or anything else scary will not be tolerated, and will be promptly deleted. Also, you may have noticed that I am not arguing about anyone's essential feelings about abortion -- just about actions.