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Wow, Jo.. this entry totally blows my mind. My biggest regret of Finlay's birth is that I was so high on morphine/pain that I remember very little... and that which i do remember I try and block out, as I was so terrified. YOu did an amazing job, you were so strong and so brave for your little girl, I am so in awe. She has one cool mama!


What a birth story! Congratulations.

I was really struck by your midwife's words: "This is not the hardest thing you will ever do for this baby."

I am a mother of five. Her words were *true* and something I've never thought about before in that way. What a wise woman.


Man, you made my cry at work. Thanks so much for sharing. Sounds awful and amazing at the same time. Though I do have to say that every time I read a birth story, I feel somewhat grateful to be adopting. ;)


Beautiful, wonderful, inspiring. I only started reading your story a few days before Sophia's birth... so glad I came in for the best part. I have a request, if he would care to oblige. I'd love to hear a bit of Sean's perspective, seeing you overcome doubt, pain, disbelief, all of it in your transformation from pregnant woman, to woman finally holding her own actual baby.
Congratulations and much love to your family.


Great story and congratulations on your little girl! I love her name beyond belief! Sofia Hazel!!!

And your midwife is very smart. This is not the hardest thing you'll have to do for your baby!


Holy crap.

Mister, you're a better man than I. Well, wait: what I mean is, you got what you got, and you did what you needed to do. I guess I did that too, in my own way.

Love you so much.



Wow. What an amazing, well-written story. But oh-my-god, I'm certain I can NEVER do that now. My parts ache just thinking about it. Whatever happened to the nice stork?? :)


Your midwife is amazing, and you are too. I'm only a month away from my due date, and it's funny--your entry scared me, but comforted me too. At this point, I don't want anyone to soft-pedal this. I'd rather know what could happen. Especially if that comes with knowing that it's possible to get through it. I'll be thinking of you while I'm in labor, hoping for better, but inspired by your courage.

Thank you for putting aside your exhaustion and distraction with the new baby long enough to get all this down. I know it must have been hard to do.

the other Jo

Wow! You know what I love most about this story? Is how hard it was. People get some idea that homebirth is such an easy road, everything always works out perfect. But it isn't. Most of the time it works, but there are stories like yours, where it is alot of hard work on everyone's part. P.S. I did have a client who ended up with c-sec for midwife exhaustion. We are only human. I love the story, thank you for sharing with us, this most intimate, incredible moments.

Jen (yup, another one)

You. Are. Amazing.

Thank you for sharing your wonderful, terrifying, epic story with us. As much as it freaks me out, it's great to have that honesty out there so that we don't feel like we're heading into the great unknown (though we are, of course, since every birth is unique).

I'm so glad your support team was exactly what it was supposed to be.


You know, 100's of women have labors and deliveries like this everyday, sometimes easier, sometimes much worse... but you made it much more real and meaningful and special to me. a Thousand times better than anything I could see on TLC or Discovery health...Maybe it's just because you're such an amazing person and you have such an amazing story of how you came to be at this place butit does'nt matter to me, reading it feels like it's the first time anyone ever gave birth. Make sense?


Wow I felt faint reading your story. Whoo. Congrats on the lovely baby.


I've been allowing myself to read tidbits of your story over the last few days. I just finished, and boy, did I have trouble keeping my shit together. So beautiful. So totally horrifyingly-painful sounding, but beautiful nonetheless. Congratulations.


Thank you for this story. I'm 14 weeks PG with #2 right now, and you're helping me remember my son's birth (which shared some, but by no means all, characteristics of Sophia's) and prepare for the next one.

Also, I must echo the previous commenters who have said that you're amazing. You most certainly are.


The part of your story that most strikes a chord with me is the premonitions part. I too planned a home birth, was in the care of a home-based midwife, had the tub and the chux pads all ready . . . but never could envision things happening right here in the house. And despite a perfect effortless pregnancy, there was a pitocin induction for a sudden-onset problem and a surgical birth for the sudden discovery of the much bigger problem -- but a more beautiful, home-birthy birth you never saw (midwives in the surgical suite, the whole bit). Birth really does show us what we don't know, doesn't it?

Lisa  Ü

The best birth story I've ever read, by far. I think someone else mentioned it above, but reading it is like reading about how it actually is but what no one ever says. Not becuase there's a reason not to, it just never gets told that way, that realisticly. And for that, Thank you.


Wow. I am in tears. You are tremendous. Congratulations.


Adding my congratulations! I wish you lots of rest and little worry over the next few months.


Oh lord have mercy. Jesus Gay. WOW.

I am so blown away by this story. I was present for a friend's birth and it went very similarly. But reading your rendition brought it home.

Wow. Brilliant.

And, I have to say, since we live in the same city--the 911 thing does not surprise me. Sadly.

Carrie Jo

That brought tears to my eyes. I felt like I was there. I'm scared and yet so very much hoping I get to experience that some day...


I believe that's the most spectacular birth story I've ever read. I have no idea how you maintained such a sense of clarity in the face of all that was going on.

Indeed, I'm jealous. I regret, to a certain degree, that I had to check out of my own birth experience in order to save myself from the fear of hysterectomy.

I am just thrilled that you had the birth you ultimately desired - even if it came in a different package than you expected.

My hat's off to you, Jo.

Linda B


Your story is amazing. Gives me chills to read it.

Congratulations on your beautiful new family.


That was amazing. That has to be one of the best descriptions I've ever read about what it's really feels like to give birth.

I had a non-(pain)medicated, posteriorly-positioned, "eventful" birth w/ my son...I don't want to say it was similar (because how can you compare birth experiences, really?), but I can relate.

"This is not the hardest thing you will ever do for this baby." So true. SOOO true. It doesn't feel like it the time, though.



What a great story.

Rosemary Grace

You are tremendously strong!

I think the biggest thing coming through from this story is the importance of an amazing support group, you had a fabulous team working with you. I want to save this story for when I get to that stage in my life, to show me that it's difficult and painful and wonderful, and to remind me to surround myself with the right people.

I love that everybody involved was open to those premonition type feelings.

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