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Faerie

*exhales with a boom*

WOW! Oh girl, you had me in tears. My son is 9 months today and my womb aches reading your story.

WOW!!

This part though, this..this moved me:

"Leaving, she tells me: "This is not the hardest thing you will ever do for this baby." I think about that, constantly, still."

Oh.My.Gosh.

It is so true, so deep, so poignant.

You need to print this out, bind it and sell it to every pregnant woman out. No matter how one gives birth, whether naturally or with drugs and a section, every pregnant woman out there needs to read your story. It is moving and spot on!!

Many, many, many congratulations to you!! And what a wonderful, happy, ecstatic ending that's really a beginning :D

Enjoy these sweet, special days when she is tiny. I thought my son would be tiny forever, and today I am fighting him to take a nap because he wants to move and explore and talk and grow up. Enjoy her snuggling under your chin with her butt in the air as she takes gloriously long naps.

*weeps*

Faerie

*exhales with a boom*

WOW! Oh girl, you had me in tears. My son is 9 months today and my womb aches reading your story.

WOW!!

This part though, this..this moved me:

"Leaving, she tells me: "This is not the hardest thing you will ever do for this baby." I think about that, constantly, still."

Oh.My.Gosh.

It is so true, so deep, so poignant.

You need to print this out, bind it and sell it to every pregnant woman out. No matter how one gives birth, whether naturally or with drugs and a section, every pregnant woman out there needs to read your story. It is moving and spot on!!

Many, many, many congratulations to you!! And what a wonderful, happy, ecstatic ending that's really a beginning :D

Enjoy these sweet, special days when she is tiny. I thought my son would be tiny forever, and today I am fighting him to take a nap because he wants to move and explore and talk and grow up. Enjoy her snuggling under your chin with her butt in the air as she takes gloriously long naps.

*weeps*

e

If it's any consolation, I had a faintly similar first labour, never feeling the 'urge' to push, (38-hour labour, six-hour second stage, with huge break in middle- am surprised the hospital 'let' me), yet in my second and third labours (at home), had no problem identifying this part at all. In fact it was a revelation.

I do feel for you having to do directed pushing with fingers. The directed pushing+pitocin, defo a winning combination, is bad enough.

That posterior thing is a pain, in more ways than one. Next time, spend the last three months of pregnancy leaning forwards on the back of chairs, over piles of cushions etc...

And a labour like that is empowering. You won through in the end.

Sarah

Amazing. Fantastic.

Thank you so much for remembering and writing it all out. I'm just blown away and sobbing at my desk.

Good job, honey--with the story, with the labor, with the baby.

*hug*

kate

wow...a birth story that's not all sunshine and lollipops! with 21.5 weeks to go, i'm actually feeling confident b/c this seems like the most realistic birth i've ever read or heard about - not just "oh, the pain! it was so bad!" funny, i'm very calm reading this, and am thinking as much as it obviously hurts, maybe i'm not a total nut afterall for wanting to do natural childbirth. so glad the end result is a beautiful healthy baby girl. best wishs to all of you!!! congrats!

Shelba

What a beautiful story, thank you for sharing it with us. I felt like I was peering over someone's shoulder and watching the whole thing go down. More pictures of your girl, please, she is gorgeous!

Em

Delurking to thank you for telling your frightening, inspiring story! You're amazing. I'm 23 weeks pregnant with my first child, and though I've read hundreds of birth stories few will stay with me as yours did. I'm planning a hospital birth with midwives and a doula; your description of how your midwives cared for you was particularly heartening. Congratulations to you and your beautiful family!

liz

I'm all weepy.

anon

Read the first two installments previously. Read the third and final today, and partway through it, began to and continued to weep.

Wept for the pain you experienced, wept for the beauty of the experience knowing the good ending, wept affected by the incredible writing, and wept in great jealousy.

Thank you for sharing this with me, all of us.

beaver girl

What a beautiful story. Thank you.

Nicole

I am in such awe of you.

You da bomb.

Sarah L

Thank you so much for sharing this story. I felt as if I was there in the room.
Sarah

jenny

Thank you so much for writing out your birth story in such amazing detail. It is beautiful. I am crying over the beauty of it all.

Sophia is incredibly lucky to have a woman such as you for her mother.

Kendra

Wow, you're amazing. An amazing mom and an amazing writer. Thanks for sharing it all with us.

Brandee

Wow. What an amazing story. What an amazing midwife. What an amazing support system. What an amazing hospital experience. What an amazing Mother. And what an amazing baby.

There are no words. You have used them so elequently and I am at a loss.

Sara

Loved it. LOVED.IT. Despite the lingering knowledge I will be experiencing some similar pain in 28 weeks or so, your story makes me feel . . at ease. Maybe it is just knowing women do what you did that make me realize I can do the same, it WILL end, and I will have a baby in my arms after the hard work.

:-) Thanks for sharing. :-)

Amy

Jo, your words are amazing and I don't think that I've ever read such a vivid account of childbirth. I'll be giving this to my husband to read because you give such a strong sense of how it feels to be a woman in labour.

I also want to say how happy I am for you and Sean and Sophia. You've had such a journey to get to this point and it's wonderful to read such a happy ending (leaves books and movies in the dust!). Bets, BEST wishes as you enjoy your daughter.

21stCenturyMom

That was one fine birth story. Thanks for sharing. Kudos to you and the team and congrats to you and Sean.

shibug

(de-lurking)
Wow.... I was in tears, scared out of my mind and absolutely moved while I read your story. I think you are incredible. I'm 6 weeks pregnant after dealing with infertility issues... and wow, I just don't know what to say. I'm moved beyond belief. Thank you for sharing your story.

mirabel

Another lurker de-lurking...

That was absolutely amazing to read, Jo. Intense, beautiful, honest. I got so into all three parts that when I finished, I had to reorient myself to my surroundings. Thank you for sharing such an amazing story.


heather

WOW.

Most. Moving. Shit on the internet.
Ever.

Seriously.
Thank you so much.


[and you know i mean 'shit' in the best way]

heather

by the way, i have GOT to print this out and keep it for the hopefully-one-day i get to this point. to remind myself, and, to give others around me perspective of what it *might* be like for me.

what a resource you are, Jo! :D

CIndy

oops-I think first line should read Aug 23 not Sept 23.
Jo, you are amazing. I am due with my second in 2 months and I am so scared. I took birth control after my first because I was so traumatized, and 2 years of infertility treatments later (definitely learned my lesson)I am finally pregnant but starting to have those flashbacks. I'm hoping I get through it without any mental scarring this time. You are an inspiration!

Moxie

An amazing story. What gift for you to have gone through that.

My wish for you: That your second birth (if you have one) goes slowly enough that you can mutter profanities through the contractions, that your body pushes the baby out without any effort on your part, and that the baby slips into the world easily and with no tears, like a little fish.

Paula

What a beautiful, beautiful story. You've captured the magic in a remarkable way. As for the premonitions.. the energy, the 'finding out', the relief - all convinces me that the universe unfolded your birth story exactly how it was meant to be. Well done, mom.

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